Originally published at: https://geektherapy.org/love-growth-and-the-unexpected-with-you-me-and-her/
Author: Jorge Perez
Has there ever been a time when a couple, stuck in a rut, considered a threesome to reignite their relationship? Thankfully, I have not been in a rut but I have thought about the concept of a threesome.
Enter the film You, Me, and Her. We meet Mags (Selina Ringel) and Ash (Ritesh Rajan), a married couple whose 10-year relationship has become a cycle of arguments and compromises, leaving them both yearning for more in the film.
Parenthood has added its own challenges, making communication even harder.
Hoping to rekindle their passion, they set off on a trip together, but their conflicts follow them. That is, until they meet Angela (Sydney Park), a free-spirited digital nomad. Angela stirs something in Mags—feelings she never expected. In Angela’s presence, Mags is free to be a version of herself that she hasn’t been in a long time. This unexpected connection leads Mags and Ash to flirt with the idea of a threesome—but as they quickly learn, it’s never as simple as it seems.
A Story Rooted in Reality
You, Me & Her is inspired by real-life events from the husband-and-wife team behind the film, Selina Ringel (writer and lead actress) and Dan Levy Dagerman (director).
“It’s based on a personal story,” Ringel shared. “My husband and I took a trip to Vegas after we had our son, one of the first trips we had taken without him. We ended up going to a club, and this woman started hitting on me, which had never happened before. She was very beautiful, and I was very attracted to her.” This surprising experience sparked the idea for the script, which explores self-discovery, desire, and communication in relationships.
More Than Just a Threesome
While the film touches on the idea of a threesome, it’s not just about that. Ringel explained, “One of the biggest things for us is that this film is actually about relationships, navigating the hard conversations you need to have, and meeting each other in your growth.”
This idea is evident in how the film follows Mags’ journey of self-discovery, while Ash tries to prove that he is a capable husband and father. Their experiences challenge them both to grow individually—and in turn, bring them closer together. I also found that it challenges the simple concept of being honest with each other.
Ringel summed it up beautifully: “So to me, what this movie really explores is ultimately, how do we stay curious and connected with each other? How do we keep checking in? How do we stay honest? How do we know where the other person’s at?”
Balancing Creativity and Mental Health
Making a film is no small feat, and the team behind You, Me & Her knows the importance of mental health while working in such a demanding industry. When asked how they avoid burnout, producer Ritesh Rajan shared, “Personally, I try to do stuff that has nothing to do with film and television. I’m big into martial arts, dancing, and video games. I find hobbies that reset my mind.”
For Ringel and Dangerman, family time is key. “We have two kids—a one-year-old daughter and a four-year-old son—and spending quality time with them is really helpful for both of us. We try to create an environment where it’s a work-free zone—so no phones allowed when we’re playing with our kids.”
Pushing Boundaries in Relationships
You, Me & Her takes an honest, refreshing look at what happens when a couple faces relationship struggles head-on. The film challenges the idea that romance should always follow a traditional path and instead explores how communication, self-discovery, and unexpected experiences can lead to deeper connection. I also found the growth between Mags and Ash was inspiring since they rediscovered how to be more open and honest with each other.
“I’m hoping the audience will walk away and have an honest conversation they’ve never had before—about anything,” said Ringel.
And that’s what makes this film so compelling—it isn’t just about one couple’s experience. It sparks questions for viewers: What would I do in this situation? How do I communicate in my relationship? What does personal growth look like for me?
A Date Night With a Twist: Childcare Partnership & Premiere Details
To make date night easier for parents, the team behind You, Me & Her has partnered with Bumo, a leader in modern childcare solutions, to offer discounted childcare for parents who want a well-earned night out at the movies.
“As a mom, I know how hard it can be to prioritize date nights or even just a break,” Ringel shared. “After everything we’ve all been through this year, parents deserve a moment of joy.”
So whether you’re going with a partner, friends, or taking yourself on a solo self-care date, You, Me & Her is the perfect Valentine’s Day movie to spark meaningful conversations. Premiering in theaters nationwide on February 14, 2025, the film offers a bold and thoughtful exploration of relationships, blending sharp writing, emotional depth, and fresh perspectives on love, honesty, and growth.
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